Infidelity & Betrayal Therapy

Infidelity & Betrayal Therapy

Understand, Repair, and Rebuild Trust

You’ve betrayed your partner, you’re likely feeling guilt, shame, and uncertainty about what comes next. Our therapists are here to help you understand what happened, how it happened, how to repair the damage, and become a safe, trustworthy partner.

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What Leads to Betrayal?

Betrayal is not a random, accidental event that one just falls into. It’s often the result of unacknowledged and unresolved personal struggles, relational disconnection, or unmet emotional needs even from childhood. Common behaviors include:

  • Infidelity: Emotional or physical affairs.
  • Addictions: Gambling, pornography, or substance use.
  • Secrets: Financial dishonesty or long-hidden truths.

Acknowledging these behaviors and understanding their root causes is the first step toward making meaningful changes. If you have not yet disclosed them to your partner, we can help you prepare for that through betrayal counseling.

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The Impact of Betrayal
on You and Your Partner

Betrayal doesn’t just harm your partner — it
affects you as well.

You may feel:

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Shame and Guilt

Struggling to make sense of the hurt you’ve caused

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Confusion

Wondering how things went so wrong

Anxiety
Fear

Trrying that your relationship can’t recover and that you’ll lose friendships too

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Defensiveness

Trying to protect your partner from the hurt you’ve caused

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Disconnection

Feeling distant from your partner, your family, and yourself

Healing and growth require courage, but with willingness and the right assistance, you can create a stronger, healthier relationship than you had even before the betrayal.

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How We Help the Betrayed

Our therapy provides a path toward self-awareness, accountability, and real change. We help you:

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Understand Your Actions

Explore the underlying issues that led to the betrayal

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Full Disclosure

If you have not completely disclosed the extent of the betrayal, we can help you and your partner prepare for, and go through, a formal disclosure process that puts everything on the table, once and for all.

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Face the Pain

Learn to validate your partner’s hurt without defensiveness

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Rebuild Trust

Take concrete steps to repair the damage and show lasting change.

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Prevent Future Betrayal

Address past trauma, patterns and behaviors to avoid repeating mistakes.

With personalized strategies and evidence-based techniques, we guide you toward becoming the partner your spouse deserves.

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FAQs for the Betrayed

Can I rebuild trust after what I’ve done?

Yes, but it takes time, consistency, and a willingness to do the work. We often say, “Trust is built by reliable behavior over time.” One of the biggest gifts you can give your betrayed partner is to commit to doing the (counseling) work required to figure out how and why you betrayed them so that you know how to become a safe person for them moving forward.

How can therapy help me understand why this happened?

Our therapists guide you in exploring the deeper issues behind your actions so you can make meaningful changes. The beauty of working with one of our non-judgmental therapists is it offers you an open space to explore the deeper emotions, beliefs and even longings that were at play in making the choices you did.

Once a cheater, always a cheater! Is this true?

We certainly have worked with many individuals who have had serialized affairs! However, like any personal flaw, we have found that those who commit to therapy and to doing the deeper work to find the trauma and attachment wounds underlying these behaviors will eventually be able to bring themselves to their partner as a faithful, trustworthy person.

What happens during betrayal counseling?

During betrayal counseling, you’ll work with a therapist to explore the underlying reasons for your actions, understand the emotional impact on your partner, and learn how to rebuild trust and repair the relationship through honest communication and accountability.

Is betrayal counseling only for couples?

No, betrayal counseling is beneficial for individuals as well. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, it helps you process your actions, identify personal patterns, and grow into a more self-aware and trustworthy person moving forward. REWRITE: This is not a relevant FAQ to this page.

Meet Our Therapists

Our team of expert therapists specializes in betrayal recovery for both individuals and couples.

Works with

Areas of Interest

Gender

Overwhelmed by the options? Schedule a Free Consultation and we’ll help you choose the right team member

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Jennifer L. Cole
Jennifer L. Cole MA, CCC, SEP | Immediate availability

Jennifer is a compassionate therapist specializing in trauma, addiction, relationship counseling, and spiritual formation. With a Master of Arts in Counseling and extensive training in Somatic Experiencing (SE), she offers a holistic, client-centered approach that integrates mind, emotions, and body sensations to heal trauma. Jennifer works with individuals, couples, and families, addressing issues like infidelity, grief, and co-dependency. She is passionate about supporting clients through life’s challenges, promoting healing, resilience, and personal growth.

Jeremiah Palmer
Jeremiah Palmer MAMFT, CACFT Associate | Immediate availability

Jeremiah is a warm and direct therapist who helps individuals and couples find the deeper roots of their challenges. He specializes in healing from trauma, overcoming addiction, and building healthier relationships. Drawing on his unique insights into family dynamics, Jeremiah helps you reconnect with your authentic self and create lasting change. Click to learn how you can start your journey with him.

Melissa Bonnell
Melissa Bonnell MAMFT, CACFT Associate, CCC | Immediate availability

Melissa is a warm and experienced marriage and family therapist with a passion for helping people heal their most important relationships. She specializes in helping couples repair trust after betrayal and guiding individuals to reconnect with themselves. With her compassionate, non-judgmental approach, clients feel safe and deeply understood. Click to see if Melissa is the right therapist to walk alongside you on your journey.

Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele
Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele MAMFT, CACFT Associate | Immediate availability

Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele is a compassionate therapist and co-founder of Therapevo Counseling. She specializes in adolescents, young adults, couples, and trauma recovery. With a Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy, Verlynda integrates Emotionally Focused Therapy, Motivational Interviewing and Brainspotting to support clients through challenges like infidelity, betrayal, and emotional struggles. She provides a compassionate, empathetic environment for healing, helping individuals and couples navigate difficult life transitions. Verlynda is also the co-host of the “Normalize Therapy” podcast and hosts an annual Christian Marriage Cruise.

Lilien Kovács-Hélisz
Lilien Kovács-Hélisz MA, RCC | Immediate availability

Lilien Kovács-Hélisz is a compassionate Registered Clinical Counsellor specializing in trauma therapy, couples counseling, and addiction recovery. With a Master’s in Psychology and certifications in EMDR, Schema Therapy, and Family Therapy, she integrates multiple therapeutic approaches to support clients through personal growth and healing. Lilien focuses on creating a safe, empathetic environment for clients to explore their challenges. She works with individuals, teens, and families, helping them build resilience, self-compassion, and navigate life’s transitions with confidence.

Ricky Aguilar
Ricky Aguilar MAMFT, RCC | Immediate availability

Ricky Aguilar is a compassionate therapist specializing in family and couples counseling, pornography addiction, and trauma recovery. With a B.S. in Counselling Psychology and an M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy, Ricky uses systemic approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS). Fluent in English and Spanish, he offers a culturally sensitive approach, working with adolescents, young adults, and families to process emotions and foster healthier relationships. Ricky is passionate about helping clients navigate challenges and build stronger connections.

Cara Pederson
Cara Pederson MC, RCT, CACFT Associate | Immediate availability

Cara Pederson is a dedicated therapist specializing in trauma recovery, relationship issues, and mental health support. With a Master of Counselling and training in various therapeutic modalities, including the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy, she helps individuals and couples heal from anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Cara's compassionate, non-judgmental approach creates a safe space for clients to explore their emotions and build a path toward healing, clarity, and personal growth.

Korey Reimer
Korey Reimer MC, CCC | Immediate availability

Korey Reimer brings to his work as a therapist over 15 years of experience in ministry, offering a compassionate, empathetic approach to therapy. He specializes in helping individuals, couples, and adolescents navigate anxiety, betrayal trauma, pornography addiction, and spiritual issues. Korey uses Narrative Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, and Emotion-Focused therapy to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for growth. He is passionate about helping clients achieve personal healing and wholeness, fostering meaningful therapeutic relationships and offering guidance on life's challenges.

Mari Lee Ayers
Mari Lee Ayers MA, CPC, CT | Immediate availability

Mari Lee Ayers specializes in building healthier relationships, co-dependency, 12-step recovery, trauma, and grief. Mari Lee takes an eclectic approach, incorporating Attachment Theory, Neuroscience, Emotion-Focused Therapy, and Internal Family Systems. She believes in a holistic, client-centered process, guiding individuals toward self-compassion and healing. Mari Lee offers tailored interventions and tools to empower clients in their personal growth and transformation.

Shemiya Ruud
Shemiya Ruud MC, CCC, CACFT Associate | Immediate availability

Shemiya Ruud specializes in couples, family counseling, and trauma recovery. Drawing from Emotionally Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and attachment-based interventions, Shemiya creates a warm, client-centered approach to help individuals and families reach their goals. She has a passion for guiding clients through relational challenges, including grief, addiction, and childhood trauma. With a focus on systemic healing, Shemiya values a collaborative, strengths-based approach, allowing clients to navigate their unique journeys to healing and growth.

Christal Wilson
Christal Wilson MDiv, RP, CSAT | Immediate availability

Christal is a creative and hopeful therapist specializing in the complex issues of sex addiction, betrayal trauma, and couples conflict. As a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) and EMDR practitioner, she offers a flexible, research-informed approach to help individuals and couples find a clear path toward healing, connection, and recovery.

Dianne Kuglin
Dianne Kuglin MA, MC, CT, CPC, CCAC | Immediate availability

Dianne specializes in addiction, trauma, and relationship challenges. With a Master of Counselling and certifications in addiction counseling, she helps individuals and couples navigate issues like sex and porn addiction, infidelity, and grief. Dianne’s solution-focused approach empowers clients to heal and rebuild. Combining professional expertise with personal experience, she creates a supportive space for growth and transformation, guiding clients toward healthier relationships and well-being.

Ron de Jager
Ron de Jager MC, CCC, DMA | Immediate availability

Ron is a therapist with a unique background as a Professor of Music. His experience taught him how trauma and stress are held in the body, giving him a deep and compassionate perspective. He specializes in helping people heal from trauma, anxiety, and addiction, with a particular focus on performers. Ron provides a safe, non-judgmental space to help you find freedom and resilience.

Cheryl Jones
Cheryl Jones BCACC Student Member | Immediate availability

Cheryl is a compassionate and calm intern therapist who believes deeply in the power of connection for healing. Drawing from her own lived experience, she helps individuals and couples navigate relational pain, attachment wounds, and life transitions. She uses an Emotionally Focused approach to help clients find safety, understanding, and renewed hope.

Jeremy Zacharias
Jeremy Zacharias MAMFT, MDiv, RMFT, CCC | Waitlisting

Jeremy Zacharias specializes in building healthy relationships, trauma healing, and addiction recovery. With a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Master of Divinity, he draws from Emotionally Focused Therapy, Systems Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and Narrative Therapy to help clients navigate challenges. Jeremy’s client-centered approach fosters a compassionate, conversational space where individuals, couples, and families can explore new perspectives and unlock personal growth. He is passionate about helping clients strengthen relationships and overcome obstacles to create lasting change.

Mike Takkinen
Mike Takkinen MA, CPC, CSAT | Waitlisting

Mike Takkinen is an experienced therapist specializing in relationship counseling, addiction recovery, and mental health issues. With a background in both clinical and theological studies, he integrates his personal values of authenticity, transparency, and collaboration into his therapeutic approach. Mike helps individuals and couples navigate challenges like addiction, anxiety, depression, and relationship conflict. He uses practical strategies aligned with clients' values, fostering trust and growth, while offering support through life's milestones and transitions.

Sharon Snooks
Sharon Snooks HBISW, RSW, SEP | Waitlisting

Sharon Snooks is an experienced therapist specializing in trauma, grief, loss, and mental health challenges. With over 30 years in social services, Sharon has a deep understanding of how trauma impacts individuals and families. She offers evidence-based therapies such as CBT, DBT, IFS, and Somatic Experiencing™. Sharon’s compassionate, trauma-informed approach helps clients regain hope, heal, and restore growth. She specializes in crisis stabilization, betrayal trauma, and nervous system regulation, creating a safe space for healing and personal development.

Jesse Schellenberg
Jesse Schellenberg MAMFT, RCC, RP | Waitlisting

Jesse Schellenberg is a dedicated therapist specializing in couples therapy, marriage counseling, and relationship issues. Holding a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy, as well as degrees in Christian Studies and Theology, Jesse uses techniques such as Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Couples Therapy, and EMDR to help clients navigate challenges like sexual intimacy, pornography addiction, and trauma. His compassionate, non-judgmental approach fosters trust and healing for individuals and couples alike.

Caleb Simonyi-Gindele
Caleb Simonyi-Gindele MAMFT, RCC-ACS, CSAT | No availability

Caleb Simonyi-Gindele is the co-founder and Clinical Director at Therapevo, specializing in infidelity recovery, trauma, and addiction therapy. With a Master’s in Marriage & Family Therapy and certifications in Sex Addiction Therapy, Caleb uses a research-based approach informed by family systems, attachment theory, and trauma. Known for his calm, steady presence, he creates a safe, non-judgmental space for clients. Caleb helps individuals navigate complex issues like betrayal, abuse, and chronic lying.

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Why Choose Us?

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Compassionate,
Non-Judgmental Support

02

Proven Strategies
Tailored to Your Journey

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Convenient Online Counseling for Privacy
and Flexibility