Abuse

Feb 12

How to Break a Trauma Bond: A Nervous System-Based Approach to Freedom

Introduction Breaking a trauma bond is not about willpower or “just leaving”—it’s a neurological uncoupling process where your brain’s hijacked reward and attachment systems must be gradually rewired to diminish the intense emotional pull toward...

Abuse

Feb 9

Trauma Bonding in Betrayal Trauma: Why You Can’t Leave Despite the Pain

You know what they did. You can list every lie, every late night, every moment you were gaslit into doubting your own gut. And still your body wakes at 3 a.m. reaching for them. You...

Abuse

Feb 5

Understanding Trauma Bonding: Domestic Violence and Why Families Stay Trapped

Safety Disclaimer If you are in immediate danger, call 911. Domestic violence is a life-threatening situation. The most dangerous time is often when you attempt to leave—75% of DV murders occur after the victim tries...

Abuse

Feb 2

What Is a Trauma Bond? The Invisible Chains That Keep You Stuck

If you feel “crazy” for missing someone who hurts you, or “addicted” to a person you know is harmful, you are not broken. Your brain is responding the way brains tend to respond to a...

Abuse

Nov 24

Gaslighting Explained: The Ultimate Guide to What It Is, Why It Happens, and How to Stop It

Key Takeaways Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that makes victims question their memory, perception, and sanity through deliberate manipulation The term is originally derived from the 1938 play “Gas Light” where a husband...

Abuse

Jun 24

Defining Emotionally Abusive Behavior

This is a subject we’ve wanted to address for some time. We see some irony in the work we do with couples or individuals when it comes to abuse. Often, though not always, people who...

Abuse

Feb 13

The Abusive Wife

The classic domestic abuse scenario is a husband beating his wife. I think almost all of society gets that and understands it’s wrong. Then you have husbands that are emotionally and psychologically abusive: people are...

Abuse

Jan 30

When Others Don’t See Your Spouse as Abusive

When a spouse is being abused, one of the challenges they may have to face is that other people around them may not believe that they are being abused. When this happens, there are even...

Abuse

Aug 1

When Your Spouse Constantly Criticizes: Holding Onto Self Worth

Initially, I was a little hesitant about this episode. Talking about criticism? Sounded like it was going to be a real drain! This article aims to answer common questions about dealing with a spouse who...

Abuse

Apr 25

How To Get Your Abusive Husband Into Therapy…Safely

If your husband is abusive it can be really, really difficult to get him into therapy for help. And yet, this leaves the wife in a very difficult place — not only because of the...

Abuse

Jan 10

Help! My Spouse is a Narcissist!

We all carry at least a little narcissism in our hearts. We all show a few traits that belie underlying pride and entitlement. But what happens in marriages when narcissism is a defining feature? And...

Abuse

Feb 22

When to Leave (or Stay In) an Abusive Marriage [3 of 3]

Today’s episode is twice the challenge: we’re dealing with the difficult subject of abuse in marriage but we’re also talking about when to leave a marriage too, which, under normal circumstances, is contrary to our...

Abuse

Feb 15

Can Abusive Husbands Change? [2 of 3]

Will the abuse get better? Or is it going to stay the same? Abuse is deeply rooted in belief systems and so we want to talk about recovery rates and how to figure out if...

Abuse

Feb 8

Is My Husband Abusive? [1 of 3]

Abuse is such a tough situation. We want to speak to all the brave wives out there who are putting on the mask every Sunday and acting like things are OK when every week you...

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