Conflict
Apr 6
Communication Exercises for Couples: 9 Science-Based Techniques to Transform Your Relationship
Introduction You start a conversation about the weekend, and five minutes later, you’re both shouting about something that happened three years ago. Sound familiar? This pattern—where simple discussions spiral into destructive arguments—affects millions of romantic...
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Negative Interaction Cycle Marriage: How to Break Free from the Dance of Disconnection
Introduction The negative interaction cycle in marriage is the invisible force keeping you trapped in the same painful conflict over and over—even when you both desperately want things to change. If you feel stuck in...
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Marriage Conflict: What Is Your Fighting Style?
“How couples argue and disagree about issues appears to be more consequential to the success of marriage than what they argue about or how often they experience conflicts.” To reword the above quote taken from...
Continue readingJul 14
Why Do I Keep Attracting Toxic People? Flipping the Script on Relationship Patterns
Do you find yourself repeatedly involved with people who leave you feeling drained, confused, or questioning yourself? Have you ever wondered, “Why do I keep attracting toxic people?” If so, you’re not alone.
Continue readingJun 16
The Art of Healthy Boundaries
In the intricate dance of life and relationships, the concept of boundaries often arises as a critical tool for maintaining balance and well-being. However, despite their importance, many people unknowingly approach boundary setting in ways...
Continue readingFeb 19
Overwhelmed or Flooded? Here’s How To Calm Down During Conflict
If you ever find yourself feeling overwhelmed during conflict, then this article is for you. We describe the psychological experience of flooding: when you white out or shut down or get hijacked by your own...
Continue readingMar 6
Here’s The Best Thing You Can Do After a Fight With Your Spouse
Having a fight with your spouse is a stressful, upsetting experience that can leave you bewildered, frustrated and feeling stuck. In this episode, we want to give you a straightforward strategy that you can use...
Continue readingOct 31
The Top 10 Rules for Fair Fighting
Every marriage has conflict. As we often point out, it is not so much how often you fight, but rather what you do when you fight and afterward. Do you repair after conflict? Do you...
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How To Break Out of The Same Old Arguments
The same old arguments … the same old cycle. In the marriage counseling world, we call these negative interaction cycles. The topic or concern or issue may change but it’s usually the same pattern: one...
Continue readingAug 29
Figure Out What Your Spouse is Actually Upset About
Ever get the feeling that your arguments as a couple are going nowhere? Or maybe you find yourself thinking, “There has to be a better way to solve conflict than this!” Well, there is: turns...
Continue readingAug 22
How To Get Your Husband (or Wife) Into Marriage Counseling
This has to be one of the most common questions I get emailed about. Turns out, if you can take a little time to understand why men or women react differently to the idea of...
Continue readingApr 11
Is Your Wife Nagging Too Much? It Could Be Your Fault!
Nagging is our subject for today. We’ve got some insights for you today! For example, did you know that there is a good reason why wives nag more than husbands? And that it is not...
Continue readingAug 9
Help! My Spouse is a Perfectionist!
Perfectionism is not too far from any of our hearts. Certainly, anyone who is on Facebook or Instagram knows that we, just like everybody else, tend to present the perfect image of ourselves on these...
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Can You Fix Your Marriage Without Dredging Up The Past?
This is a great question! Wouldn’t it be nice if you could just leave all the past behind, turn over a new leaf, and start afresh?
Continue readingFeb 1
Stop Bottling Up Stuff In Your Marriage
I find it’s pretty easy to avoid conflict. I kind of stockpile the issues until it gets really big and then I feel like I’m ready to talk. But the irony is: that’s actually when...
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