Conflict
Feb 19
Overwhelmed or Flooded? Here’s How To Calm Down During Conflict
If you ever find yourself feeling overwhelmed during conflict, then this article is for you. We describe the psychological experience of flooding: when you white out or shut down or get hijacked by your own...
Continue readingMar 6
Here’s The Best Thing You Can Do After a Fight With Your Spouse
Having a fight with your spouse is a stressful, upsetting experience that can leave you bewildered, frustrated and feeling stuck. In this episode, we want to give you a straightforward strategy that you can use...
Continue readingOct 31
The Top 10 Rules for Fair Fighting
Every marriage has conflict. As we often point out, it is not so much how often you fight, but rather what you do when you fight and afterward. Do you repair after conflict? Do you...
Continue readingOct 17
How To Break Out of The Same Old Arguments
The same old arguments … the same old cycle. In the marriage counseling world, we call these negative interaction cycles. The topic or concern or issue may change but it’s usually the same pattern: one...
Continue readingAug 29
Figure Out What Your Spouse is Actually Upset About
Ever get the feeling that your arguments as a couple are going nowhere? Or maybe you find yourself thinking, “There has to be a better way to solve conflict than this!” Well, there is: turns...
Continue readingAug 22
How To Get Your Husband (or Wife) Into Marriage Counseling
This has to be one of the most common questions I get emailed about. Turns out, if you can take a little time to understand why men or women react differently to the idea of...
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